• Celebration,  Personal Development,  Reflection,  Wellbeing

    Resolve to reflect

    As 2018 heads into its final days, here at Fresh Air Fridays we have been creating space for celebration. At this time of year there is often a pull for us to make changes and “fix” the things that we may perceive are “wrong” in our lives. When we celebrate our successes, we can embrace our greatness. This does not mean ignoring areas where we could develop ourselves further, but it is more about looking at the glass being half full rather than half empty. My highlights This year I have taken the time to think back on 2018 and identify my highlights. I noticed that I’m proud of personal…

  • Life style,  Personal Development,  Wellbeing

    Self-care – what does it mean to you?

    Monday 12 November is the start of Self-care week. So, it’s the perfect time to think about what self-care means to you. For me it’s about doing things that make me feel well, balanced and yes let’s face it, sane. Self-care also makes me think of when I feel unwell and how I handle whatever it is I’m dealing with. If I have physical pain like a headache I take paracetamol. Emotional pain is trickier for me to manage. In the past I have used prescribed medication, food, alcohol and exercise in varying doses and combinations to cope. Finding what works Food was an effective, but ultimately unhealthy way for…

  • Life style,  Personal Development

    What do you need?

    It’s safe to say that for a long time I was not thriving, just surviving at life. Faking it until I could make it, which overall was not a great strategy for me. I began developing an awareness of my thoughts and feelings in my 20s, mainly through talking therapies. This allowed me to be heard and perhaps more importantly to hear myself. I began to be more at ease with the me inside my head. Awareness is a perfect place to start During that time, I became conscious of a deeply ingrained pattern of behaviour. I tended to comfort eat, which used to baffle and frustrate me. I would…

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    Mind your Language and Transform your Self-Belief

    “I can’t do it!” A year ago my daughter was about to start primary school. She was beyond nervous. She was petrified. No one could mention school without her becoming upset or angry. I felt sad and powerless to help with this major milestone. One day a well-meant encouraging comment resulted in her saying “I can’t, I can’t, I can’t do it Mummy, I can’t, I can’t!” which she repeated over and over again. In my head I was shouting to myself “help her, stop her saying this, do something” but what could I do? “I can” I bundled her up in an enormous hug and took a few deep…

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    Comfort Zone – finding that extra stretch

    So July’s Fresh Air Fridays theme was “Comfort Zone”.  My initial thoughts were that I was already pushing outside my comfort zone.  I have recently become self-employed and am quickly acquiring many new skills as a result.  But when I looked deeper and explored areas in my life where I could stretch myself a bit further I noticed something new. The uncomfortable truth I am involved in various community groups around where I live and therefore need to work with a wide variety of people.  There was one relationship that stood out to me as being tricky and caused me great anxiety whenever I needed to interact or communicate with…

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    Gratitude – from loathing to loving my body

    What being grateful means to me At first I thought gratitude was remembering to say “thank you” and showing my appreciation to the people around me.  However, my thinking began to shift when I was prompted to consider more generally what in my life I was grateful for.  I started to look deeper and being grateful became more about me and less about others.  I began to see gratitude as an internal viewpoint.  For me being grateful has become a mechanism to think more positively.  Thinking more positively makes me a happier person and therefore gratitude, positivity and ultimately my own happiness has become something more within my power to…

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    Being Present – a gift to myself

    Being present is a skill I want to develop because of what it makes available to me.  It allows me to experience gratitude, connection and happiness.  I came to the realisation that although I was being present some of the time, it was more by accident than design.  I don’t want my life to pass me by and so being present is a way that I find I can experience and live it more fully.   Making Memories There are some moments in my life that happened a long time ago but are still sharp and vivid in my memory.  One example is when I was trekking with my housemate…

  • Life style,  Personal Development

    Filling Myself Up First – isn’t that just bad manners?

    “Nope, I can’t do that” was my immediate reaction when I was first invited to think about the idea of “filling myself up first”.  I was being asked to think about prioritising my own needs.  Over time I have learnt the value of self care and it is now something I do regularly.  I also notice when I haven’t been “filling myself up” and quickly remember why it is so important. What does it mean to “fill yourself up first”? The short answer is that “filling yourself up” means different things to different people.  Another answer is that for any one individual it might be something different depending on the…